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Translation in English (original Chinese content) are as follows:
During 2021, I was busy with work and further studies. Occasionally, when I had time, I participated in some activities invited by friends. However, during the activities, I mainly played with some familiar friends and rarely took the initiative to communicate with people outside the circle of friends. Moreover, the circle of participants in the activities was quite broad in terms of age, profession, religion, interests, habits, and many people’s backgrounds could not be understood immediately. Under the circumstances of only participating once and having very little communication with others, it is difficult to get to know the ideal partner back and forth. Sometimes I might come across someone who takes the initiative to contact me, but I find that they are not suitable and have some bad habits such as smoking. In order to save time, I have also met other people from some free dating apps, but many times the information filled out by those people may not be true and the difference between the real person and the picture is great. In addition, there are very few people who belong to Christianity and are serious about relationships, and who have the right feeling while being able to communicate happily. Year after year, I still haven’t met the person I hope to meet. So, in the end, I decided to try some matchmaking services with a Christian background. The staff of Faith To Date talked with me and selected suitable objects for my requirements, and made some suggestions for my situation and my requirements to broaden the search for gentlemen. Within a short month, I am grateful that the staff quickly sent some matches to me and I met the one. Here, I would like to thank the staff for their quick efficiency and the efforts behind them.
As for the single brothers and sisters who are looking for potential partners at the same time, I suggest starting from understanding yourself, including appearance, body shape, dress and makeup, speech and behavior, personality, interests, various habits and preferences, and requirements for the expected partners, especially the priority of the expectation. Everyone hopes to find someone who is similar to their own conditions or who is better than themselves in some aspects, so by understanding themselves, they can know what type of object is more comfortable and happy to get along with.
There is no perfect man/woman in the world, but the important thing is how we find someone who is happy and comfortable to get along with. Everyone is unique, there is no absolute good or bad. If you meet someone who seems attractive to you and comfortable to get along with, you can be brave and try to invite him/ her out to have a date. You may share your views on your personal life, working style, eating habits, and partner's expectations. By gaining a deeper understanding, you can know whether you suit each other. In addition, I also suggest brothers and sisters who are single to talk and expose themselves to the opposite sex. Try to recognize the different personalities of different people and their partner requirements to see whether they match your assumptions. With a clearer understanding, you may improve yourselves better. Moreover, you should also be aware of your cleanliness, habits, speech, and respect, and maintain a timely and sincere response. And every time you meet, you don’t need to focus too much on if there is a spark between each other. The absence of a spark does not mean that you are not good enough, it’s just that you two may not be suitable. Every serious consideration and decision helps you to reflect on your own requirements and what you want, it can eventually help you to meet the right one. I think the most important thing is that everyone can respect each other and share generously. While waiting for 'the one', you can also gain some experience, strive to improve yourself, become a better person, and attract the person you hope to meet. Finally, of course, there is prayer, entrusting all your things to God. Bless you all, brothers and sisters can meet at the right time to find the right one.
< Original Text >
在2021年期間，我一直忙於工作及進修。間中有時間也有參加一些朋友邀請的活動，可是在活動期間主要都是與一些比較熟的朋友玩樂，很少會主動與朋友圈外的人交流，而且參加活動的圈子無論在年紀、職業、宗教、興趣、習慣各方面都比較廣闊及很多人的背景都不能即時有所了解。在只有單次參與及與其他人甚少有交流情況下，這樣來來回回很難認識理想對象。有時候可以能碰上有主動聯絡，可是又發現對方不合眼緣及有些壞習慣如吸煙等等。而為了節省時間，也曾從一些免費交友軟件上認識其他人，可是很多時候那些人填寫的資料未必真實及真人與圖片差異太多。另外，屬於基督教而又認真認識對象，而自己合眼緣同時又能溝通愉快的真是廖廖可數，一年又一年的過去，還是沒有認識到自己希望認識的人。於是，最後我決定針對性尋找了一些基督教背景的配對服務作出嘗試，機構同工與我傾談，並針對性就我的要求選出合適的對象，並就我的情況，對我的要求作出一些建議，以擴闊尋找的對象。在短短一個月內，很感恩同工很快已為我作配對與對象見面。在此，很感謝同工們快速的效率及背後付出的努力。
至於各位單身的弟兄姊妹在尋找對象的同時，我建議從了解自己開始包括外貌、身型、衣著打扮、言行舉止、性格、興趣，各方面習慣及喜好及對於希望對象的條件及要求的先後次序。每個人都希望尋找與自己條件相若或對方在某方面比自己優秀的人，所以透過了解自己便能知道與甚麼類型的對象比較相處舒服及快樂。
世界上並沒有十全十美的人，但我們仍然能有機會找到相處快樂及舒服的人。而每一種選擇都是有取捨，沒有分對與錯，如果遇到合眼緣而又相處舒服的，可以嘗試多約出來了解及遊玩，從大家對個人生活、處事、工作、飲食習慣，對另一半的期望等。個人分享中，我相信大家對於對象能否之後有所發展能夠有所決定。另外，我也建議各單身弟兄姊妹能夠多與異性交談，了解現實大部分異性的不同性格，他們對尋找對象的要求，是否與自己想像有所出入，以便更能了解自己情況，針對性改善自己，有進步空間的想法及行為習慣。至於整潔，健康習慣，言談與尊重，能否及時對對方的話題作出合適真誠的回應，也是大家值得留意的地方。而每一次的見面，也不用太著眼於成功與否，未能成功也不意味自己不夠好，只是大家不合適而已，而大家每一次認真的思考同決定，能有助於大家遇到合適另一半，我覺得大家能互相尊重及坦誠大方分享便可了。而在等候同時，也能吸收經驗，努力改善自己，成為一個別人覺得好的對象，吸引自已希望遇到的對象。最後當然還不少得禱告，將自己的所有事情交託給神。祝福各位，弟兄姊妹能遇上合適時機找到合適的對象。
(All glory to the Lord)
